Our Twisted Perceptions
The Obvious Fact
If Barbie was an actual woman, she would be 5’9” tall, 39” bust,18” waist, 33” hips, size 3 shoes. Barbie calls this “full figure”, likes her weight at 110 lbs at 5’9” tall, weighing 110 lbs, Barbie has BMI of 16.24 & fit the weight criteria for an anorexic. She likely wouldn't menstruate. If Barbie was real, she’d walk on all fours due to her proportions. Slumber Party Barbie introduced in 1965, came with a BA scale permanently set @ 110 lbs with a book entitled “How to Lose Weight” directions stated “Don’t eat.”
The Beauty Spectrum
As much as we get targeted and judged for the way we look we get equally judged for the way we dress. Our personal style is the most potent way of letting others glimpse into our personalities and who we are as people. So being judged for that is not something to be waved aside casually.
Say No To Fashion Bullying with FAB Fashion Against Bullying! They mailed me a few days back and I think their initiative is commendable. As fashion and style bloggers several people around the world has brought in a perspective and that too with phenomenal strength into the mainstream thinking about fashion and body image. It is not about hating something you do not resemble or relate to, but about accepting them and respecting the difference. I have never been that fat girl. I am a person with strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, opinions and silences. I will always respect you no matter how different you are from me as long as you respect me or someone else who is vastly different from you.
"Being judged for your look because you don’t dress like everyone else is no joking matter. Remember when you were still in high school? Maybe you might have been a victim of such bullying yourself! "Weirdo", "ugly", "short", "nerd", "fat", “fag” are words that bullies often use to hurt.
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| Glamour mag USA - weight stereotyping |
If Barbie was an actual woman, she would be 5’9” tall, 39” bust,18” waist, 33” hips, size 3 shoes. Barbie calls this “full figure”, likes her weight at 110 lbs at 5’9” tall, weighing 110 lbs, Barbie has BMI of 16.24 & fit the weight criteria for an anorexic. She likely wouldn't menstruate. If Barbie was real, she’d walk on all fours due to her proportions. Slumber Party Barbie introduced in 1965, came with a BA scale permanently set @ 110 lbs with a book entitled “How to Lose Weight” directions stated “Don’t eat.”
The Beauty Spectrum
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| Irving Penn - Alexandra Beller, 1999 and the pits of tumblr |
As much as we get targeted and judged for the way we look we get equally judged for the way we dress. Our personal style is the most potent way of letting others glimpse into our personalities and who we are as people. So being judged for that is not something to be waved aside casually.
Say No To Fashion Bullying with FAB Fashion Against Bullying! They mailed me a few days back and I think their initiative is commendable. As fashion and style bloggers several people around the world has brought in a perspective and that too with phenomenal strength into the mainstream thinking about fashion and body image. It is not about hating something you do not resemble or relate to, but about accepting them and respecting the difference. I have never been that fat girl. I am a person with strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, opinions and silences. I will always respect you no matter how different you are from me as long as you respect me or someone else who is vastly different from you.
"Being judged for your look because you don’t dress like everyone else is no joking matter. Remember when you were still in high school? Maybe you might have been a victim of such bullying yourself! "Weirdo", "ugly", "short", "nerd", "fat", “fag” are words that bullies often use to hurt.
It’s time to make a difference now. Take a stand & be an inspiration to those who are still suffering in fear silently. Give them courage to be strong. Let your photo contribution & words of encouragement be the light of hope for them, because hope is good. Hope is always good."
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As fashion bloggers, we have the opportunity to inspire our readers. And we must inspire them to be who they want and dress the way they want!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post debi, I believe that we are real people and we have to act, weigh and dress as normal people!
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You are very inspiring and what you said is absolutely true. I don't understand all this need to paint another person with negative words because of their appearance and the way they dress. Sure, everyone makes impressions through appearances but one shouldn't be insulted and brought down because of their looks!
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That is as thought-provoking an article as there ever was one! True, there is a ruthless mafia out there that is robbing many people of peace. I understand, many of the photographs of the so-called celebrities get seriously photo-shopped. That said, there can be no excuse for a sloppy lifestyle either.
ReplyDeletethat is the thing ...we cannot tell whether a person leads a sloppy lifestyle by there appearance..a thin person maybe eats all the junk food out there and doesn't excercise, a fat person maybe is very active but has a thyroid problem or some other ailment that prevents a weight loss..a thin person maybe is a very nice person,giving and kind while a fat one maybe very mean and snarky(see the 1st picture to see how generally people wil perceive the 2 body types).we judge too soon.we have all done it at some point or faced it from someone we know personally.. there isn't a particular "ruthless mafia" out there.we all need to be responsible enough not to take part in a conversation bringing down someone for their looks.
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Awesome post debi and what a FABulous organization!!! Unfortunately, I have met both kinds of bloggers. It's truly sad. I remember one of my professors discussing this issue in class one day. Just because someone has on cheaper clothes doesn't mean they don't have style, taste or class. Maybe they lost their job and can't afford pricey items right now or they're sacrificing to provide more for their children or family (and beyond that do expensive clothes make you a better person? Maybe it's their choice NOT to wear them). As you mentioned above, just because a person is large doesn't mean they're lazy. There could be an underlying health issue. There are so many scenarios! People shouldn't judge by what they see on the outside. Because sometimes what is...ISN'T! Good for you and again excellent post!
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Well written post. It is really important to be comfortable in your own skin. And women need to understand that they will be judged even when they are thin. So be yourself.
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Debi you are so sweet! You have commentend so many posts!! You are unique!
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The first photo comes from a recent Glamour Magazine article in the US. And particularly it highlighted how weight and height is perceived. It also talked about the payscale disparity between slim and overweight women, how much longer it takes overweight women to find a job. It's unfortunate how conclusions are drawn based on size and height.
ReplyDeletei was trying to find out their sources..thanks for telling me..and i don't even wanna think about that dismal situation..as it is a masters student like me worries about job opportunities..
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